Imagine the feeling.
You’re a professional hypnotist with a growing list of clients.
Every time you give a session, your confidence and enthusiasm grows.
You’re finding your feet in a big way, and it feels amazing to be able to use your skills to help people improve various aspects of their lives.
But then, just when everything seems to be going so well, you hit a brick wall.
A client comes along with an issue you know you can help them resolve. Maybe you’ve had success with the issue before, or maybe it’s just something you feel completely comfortable dealing with.
But try as you might, it just isn’t happening. No matter what you do, you can’t get them to respond. You can’t put them in a trance.
You can’t work your magic like you normally do. You’re failing, and your client lets you know it.
They come back for a second session, hoping things will improve, and all too eager to share their doubts and reservations with you.
What are you supposed to do now?
Here are some suggestions on how you can overcome hypnosis failure and gradually turn things around.
1. Take Client Feedback Seriously
Whatever your client tells you, they’re right.
If they tell you it hasn’t worked, then you have to accept that. But don’t just leave it at that and give in. There are plenty of things you can do to find out what went wrong.
The most important thing you can do is to listen to your client’s feedback. If things didn’t work the way they normally would, you need to find out why. One of the simplest ways to do that is by asking a few questions, such as:
Does the client have doubts about your abilities as a hypnotist?
Do they have doubts about hypnosis in general?
Do they really want to change?
Do they really want to be there?
It sometimes happens that people come to a hypnotist with the wrong kind of motivation. In some cases they turn up because they’ve been forced to go. Or perhaps they’ve tried everything else they can think of and they see hypnosis as their last hope.
There are lots of problems with these motives. If they’ve been forced to attend, then there’s no real desire on their part to change. They’re doing it to please other people, and just turning up means they’re holding up at least part of their side of the bargain.
Likewise, if they don’t really want to change, there’s nothing you can do to make them. They’ll be like a dog with a bone, and the more you try to tug that bone away, the tighter they hold on.
If you suspect either of these scenarios – which you can find out by asking them – then stop what you’re doing. Tell the client that they have no chance of success unless they personally want to change. Then ask them to come back when they’ve made up their mind and are certain they want to use hypnosis to resolve the issue.
This is also a good opportunity to prime the client in preparation for their next visit. Do that by giving them the following information:
- The success you’ve had with other clients regarding this issue
- How everyone is different and how they can respond to hypnosis in their own unique ways
- How it can take longer to discover what works for some people than for others
The old adage is true:
You can’t help people who aren’t ready to help themselves. Tweet
Give them the facts, state the reality of the situation, and invite them to return when they feel ready to take the next step.
2. Adapt Your Initial Approach
Of course, it isn’t a question of blame. It’s not the client’s fault and it’s not your fault. It’s more likely a combination of the two.
Being a professional, you won’t take it lying down. You won’t simply dismiss it as a bad experience and move on. You’ll take positive steps to make sure it doesn’t happen again.
Here are some ideas you can implement that will help you to do that:
- Analyse your session. What techniques did you use? What other approaches could you take? Do you need to review the technique to make sure you’ve got it spot on?
- Do some research. Get in touch with other hypnotists in your professional network. Pick their brains and find out how they might deal with a similar situation.
- Ask for help. Visit forums and Facebook groups to chat with hypnotists and hypnotherapists about the issue.
Remember that whatever you’re going through, someone else has gone through it before you. So use this as an opportunity to discover as many possible options and approaches as you can.